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Charming your way to the top..

I recently discovered a book called Charming Your Way to the Top by Michael Levine. As you can guess from the title it’s about how charm can help you achieve success in business (and in life.)

I came across a great example from my own experience today that I thought was worth sharing and it would totally fit within the pages of this book.

Levine discusses to nice and courteous, and how to be memorable. In such a busy world where we zoom from here to there, often passing by the same people each day, it’s easy to lapse into a mode where we don’t speak, we don’t respond, we don’t acknowledge, we don’t smile.

Charm is the act of showing people you care.

And it can be a great boost to your business and overall success.

My example from today is about a restaurant that my husband had mentioned a few times. We went there for lunch but I didn’t really enjoy my food, it just wasn’t prepared the way I like. But the waitresses were nice enough and my husband was thrilled at the prospect of leftovers.

I may or may not have gone back. Surely there were other things to try on the menu.

But, the man behind the counter was SO nice. “Hey kids. What’s new? What’s happening?” he asked. He smiled.

He was charming.

At that point, it didn’t matter that I didn’t enjoy the food, I was ready to give the place another chance.

Score for the restaurant, and you know what… it didn’t cost them a dime for him to be so nice!

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A suggestion…

I’ve been a member of Romance Writers of America for more years than I can count and I’ve noticed a pattern. Each year before the National Conference and generally after the Rita/GH finalists have been announced something happens within the organization that gets everyone fired up. Whether this is on purpose (or even has a purpose) or is just a strange coincidence, I don’t know.

I’m not one of those people who likes complaints without suggestions and solutions to problems. So I have a few suggestions and solutions for those who are finding RWA distasteful.

Rather than a) sending in your money to an organization you don’t believe in, b) spending time and energy pleading your case or c) making changes to the organization, why not join on of the several wonderful online communities that offer endless information, networking opportunities and support?

  1. Bookmark  CataUniversity.com. Read through the available information. Write articles for the website. Comment so that others may learn from you.
  2. Join the CataNetwork Writers loop to get that support and networking you crave. Why pay to be a member of an online group when this group offers information, workshops, published author perspectives, interviews, support, and much more…for free?
  3. Join the JustWriteIt loop. A wonderful group run by bestselling author Shirley Jump. You’ll find lots of information there and helpful discussions. Don’t forget about RWC, a long running group for writers that offers a wealth of discussion topics for all romance writers. There’s also a group run by NYT bestselling author JoAnn Ross.
  4. Join RomanceDivas or any of the other websites dedicated to authors. You can find a wealth of information online, through author websites and from those who’ve compiled information…such as Gabrielle Luthy.
  5. Set up meetings for lunch with local authors. With online contacts surely you can find five or ten writers close to you who write romance and meet once per month? If the RWA tapes are important to you, go in together and have your own tape library. If a newsletter is important to you, contribute to one of the free online publications who desperately need your support, such as the CataWriters Toolbox.

You are not alone in the world, dear writer. The internet has brought us together. You have options. Start exploring them.

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My Cats Give Me Inspiration

One thing about having cats…they inspire you. They keep you company. They entertain you. And sometimes, they scare you.

Case in point. We recently moved our office to the basement. This has worked out so well. We hardly run the air conditioner. We can let the cats and dogs play in the backyard more.

The kitties, up until this point, well, they’ve been more cute than predator. But with them being outside more, they’re getting better at this whole hunting business. And, they’re on the ground floor.

Just this morning, Jasmine brought in a lizard. And I promptly squealed (as is my girly duty as the lady of the office) and jumped onto the comfy chair. DH, wonderful man that he is, got the broom and dustpan. The lizard, smart lizard, hopped right onto that dustpan and outside they went. The cat gave me a long “what the heck” look.

I totally have to add this “scene” to one of my books.

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Note to merchants…

It seems that lately it’s been a buyers market. However, I’ve never had to work so hard to buy a product. So, that said, I have a note for merchants. And examples too.

Example A) My new car.

It took a week to buy a new car. True, there was plenty of research to be done. Lots of test drives too. But it became abundantly clear that car dealers didn’t really want to sell us a car. No. Wait. A few car dealers. No one seemed to think we seriously wanted to buy a car. But we were. Our other car was fading fast.

When the moment came that we were ready to slap down cold hard cash, the car dealers were ready to play hard ball.

I’m more of a bicyclist myself and I don’t appreciate paying for things I won’t use, didn’t ask for, and was not quoted over the phone. That’s right. Over the phone.

During the car buying extravaganza, we called numerous dealers. Once we selected our top three choices of vehicle (Hyundai Santa Fe, Hyundai Veracruz, and Kia Borrego) we began looking around at surrounding car lots searching for just the right car. What we found?

Wrong color. Powder blue really should have stayed in the 80s.
Running boards, bleh.
Navigation system. Gimme an Iphone please.
DVD system. Who’s going to use that? The dog?

We looked in 4 different states. That’s how ready we were to buy a car. An SUV. An LUV, as they call the Borrego and Veracruz.

We found a lovely little Santa Fe. We asked for a price over the phone. They gave us one. We entered the dealership. Not only were we subjected to another full car inspection and test drive (we’d already driven the Santa Fe once, had inspected it three times - at this point, I was fairly certain I could sell the Santa Fe myself.) we then had to sit through “negotiations.” Seriously, we’d negotiated over the phone. Or so we thought. We’d haggled out a price. We were ready to sign and drive.

They mysteriously forgot to add sales tax and a documentation fee and a “security feature” to the price we were given over the phone. The new price? Roughly $1500 higher.

Okay, sales tax I get. But how does one forget to calculate sales tax for a multi-thousand dollar purchase? Documentation fee, not loving it but I can live with it. The extra security was where they lost me. When I explained how useless it was and how I wasn’t willing to pay for it, things went down hill. Long story short, we spent four hours trying desperately to buy a car and came away empty handed.

The next day we called another dealer. Found the perfect car for us. No extra security features. No running boards. No DVD player. No navigation system. We asked for a price. Repeatedly. Ultimately, the salesperson hung up on us saying they couldn’t sell a car over the phone.

Note to car dealers… why not?

Second note to salespersons and car dealers everywhere, don’t hang up on your customers, especially when they’re serious about buying a car and are asking legitimate questions.

They were incredibly surprised when we showed up thirty minutes later, walked right past the car (while quickly looking for scratches, etc.) and demanded we talk numbers. They wouldn’t tell us over the phone how much “and change was.” As in, it’ll be “such and such thousands of dollars and change.” Ultimately, that and change turned out to be seven hundred dollars. Again, we were going down that path of, we want to buy a car, you keep sneaking in fees and don’t want to sell a car today.

Luckily when we got up and walked out they offered to cut their “and change” in half and we drove off in a new car. Yay!

But this sadly isn’t the only case of trying to buy a product and stores not being willing or having the merchandise even stocked too sell.

I’m writing this post on a new netbook from Dell. I looked them up online, found out that it would take ten days to get here and well, sometimes I like instant gratification. Once I decide to buy product X, I don’t want to wait for it.

So off to WalMart we went. And went. And went. We were finally able to purchase the coveted netbook at the 6th WalMart we visited. Insane? You bet. I checked WalMart.com and they said that store #3 on our list had the computer(we just happened to check the two walmarts on the way to #3.) No, they had a display model. Evidently display models count toward inventory, even though they won’t sell it to you.

Yes, we traipsed all over north west Georgia to find this little beauty. And sadly, no one at WalMart seemed that concerned that they weren’t making a sale that day. Sad, isn’t it?

My husband and I have noticed a similar phenomenon at Best Buy, in fact we call it the Best Buy Phenomenon. Over the years we’ve purchased several things from Best Buy. Several big ticket items, in fact. This morning we stopped by Best Buy to check out the mini computers.

I kid you not, five different Best Buy employees asked if they could help us and that doesn’t count the greeter. We declined because we were still in research mode. During research mode we like to play with the product, touch it and use it. We like to see how it will fit in our life, without a salesperson standing over our shoulder trying to sell, sell, sell us on the product.

After a bit more research at home and a few more trips to Target and Walmart, we were ready to buy. Back to BestBuy we go. And we had questions. Questions that weren’t answered in the little slips of paper stuck to the price tag. We looked back and forth between the minis. We scanned the boxes of new computers below the demos. We still had questions before buying. Not a single Best Buy employee offered to help us.

This, friends, is what we call the Best Buy Phenomenon.

It’s happened multiple times to us, pretty much any time we go to buy a computer, camera or TV. When we’re just looking or buying something simple like a video or Milk Duds, there are ten employees at our beck and call. When it’s time to get something out of those locked shelves…there’s no one around. It’s bizarre.

It’s the way of things I guess. All I know is that I’ve never had to work so hard to buy products in my life. Let’s hope this salesperson apathy is just a passing phase.

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Happy 60th, Harlequin

A great segment on Harlequin’s 60th Anniversary…plus a cover shoot!

Posted in Reading.


Good Friends: Denise Meyers

Ages ago…I don’t really want to count how many years…I was a young writer exploring the internet. As I sat at my computer one day I wondered what to do with this big thing called the world wide web. So I decided to plug some of my hobbies into a search engine (this was before I’d found Google!) and see what happened.

Well, I typed in writing and found the writers bbs. It wasn’t long before I was a member and hanging out in the chatroom. I met lots of other writers and one in particular who wrote romance.

As I remember it, Denise messaged me to let me know about a group called cata-romance on this service called onelist. It was a group just for romance writers.

I of course signed up and the rest, as they say, is history. But over the years, through changes to egroups, then yahoo groups, and finally cataromance.com, I became friends with Denise. She was writing romance about race cars long before Harlequin ever joined forces with Nascar. I see her around the web though we don’t talk nearly as often as we used to. Time flies by, things change, I haven’t been a member of the BBS in probably 8 years. So sad, but just a reminder to keep in touch with old friends.

How about you? Any old friends you haven’t talked to in a while?

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Good Friends

Does your inbox tell you every time someone on myspace wants to be your friend? Mine does. For the most part I like these little notes. It makes me feel connected with the world. Sometimes though I look at the name and wonder “who in the world?”

This got me thinking recently…like deep thinking. Scary, I know. I’m “friends” with a couple hundred folks…but how many of them do I really know? How many of them have I met in real life? How many of them have I carried on a conversation with? How many of them have I even said “Hi” to?

In this world of interconnectivity and dozens of ways to stay in touch and “get connected” it seems that I (along with billions of others) have lost a connection with those that I do consider my friends. And there are ample opportunities to make new honest to goodness friends…and I let them slip through my fingers.

This depresses me.

And makes me think of the wonderful people I have met both online and offline who make this solitary profession a little less lonely.

I’d like to introduce you to a few. In fact, I’ll introduce you to one each Friday for as long as I can, with a little story of how I know them and why I think they’re special. Hopefully you’ll enjoy these introductions to my friends and perhaps one day you’ll too be able to call them your friend…and really mean it.

So come back next week for an introduction to Denise Meyers.

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2009 Goals Update

Can you believe I actually lost my goals? As in forgot what they were and where I’d written them down? Luckily, my blog is on top of things and here they are, just waiting for me to remember and accomplish them.

  • Blog here weekly
  • Finish the long emotional series romance I’m working on by September
  • Revise and polish the manuscript before Christmas
  • Do research on my top 10 agents
  • Present 2 workshops in 2009

Now for the progress report…

Blog weekly… haha. Yeah, that one is funny because I haven’t blogged here since I wrote that goal! Well, on ward and upward. Next week is a new week.

Finish emotional series contemporary. Good news, decided on a line that I think fits my voice, storylines, and in general I enjoy. Me picking a single line is a rather big deal because I write so many different sub genres and enjoy so many lines and publishers. And yes, I’ve made progress on the actually writing of that story, which I’m currently calling Her Protector, for lack of a better title.

Can’t revise and polish till the manuscript is done, so check back after September on this one.

I’ve got my ear to the ground about several agents, but it seems that many agents are playing musical chairs at the moment. Need to create a file on them…one day soon.

Present 2 workshops in 2009. Whoop! I presented one in January. How’s that for progress? Now for number 2… hmm…

So, how about you? How are your goals going? Have you progressed in your writing? I’ve invited everyone from the CN Writers loop to chime in in my newly renovated (ahem…working) comments section below. Join them. Tell me about your goals, how’s you’re accomplishing them. And by all means, leave a link to your blog so I can check up on you throughout the year.

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A major goal confession…

I have a major confession. It’s hard to say aloud, much less type for all the world to read (and there’s that whole wayback machine thing which makes me wonder if I should really confess on the internet.)

But I digress.

Goals. I’ve been talking about them, typing about them, and thinking about them since last November. I was anxiously awaiting the awesome Goals workshop given by Susan Meier at the CataNetwork Writers loop.

I have an entire notebook of goals.

Well, there are a few pages of notes, a grocery list or two, and a few to do lists, but mostly… goal lists. Plans and resolutions for the new year.

The new year is here.

And I still have not put my writing goals in the notebook.

There… I’ve said it. Typed it. Whatever. The point is… I feel terrible about that. I have so many things I want to write, submit, accomplish… and they’re all just floating around in my head like bubbles and I can’t seem to catch any of them and put them down on paper/screen.

It’s so easy to get away with not writing my goals down. No one will know, I tell myself. Or rather, the little she-devil on my shoulder tells me.

It’s so easy not to share the goals. No one will check. “No one will notice,” says the she-devil.

It’s so easy not to write. No one will care. Except for me. My cats don’t care. They’re happy as long as I’m feeding them. The dog won’t care, he’d rather go for a walk. My DH won’t care. He’s busy with his own task list. My friends and family won’t care… for various reasons.

So it all comes back to me.

I have to care. I have to make myself do it…whatever it happens to be at the moment. And right this moment, it’s goals.

So here they are:

  • Blog here weekly
  • Finish the long emotional series romance I’m working on by September
  • Revise and polish the manuscript before Christmas
  • Do research on my top 10 agents
  • Present 2 workshops in 2009

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Reading: Our Husband by Stephanie Bond

Our Husband Our Husband by Stephanie Bond



My review


rating: 5 of 5 stars
What a great book. Not too heavy on the romance, but full of warmth, friendship, and mystery.


View all my reviews.

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